5 ways to keep your relationship steady when you move

Talk to each other about the move. Try to get a sense of how your partner is feeling and support and empathise with them as much as you can. This might sound scary but sometimes it’s as simple as saying, ‘What’s your favourite thing about our new place?’ or ‘Just think, in two weeks we’ll be cooking [insert favourite meal] in a whole new place.’

When it comes to organising moving day, chat about each of your strengths, and divide tasks between you. It’s a good way to make sure the jobs are equal too, so no one feels hard done by.

No, we’re not talking about a break from your relationship. 

Taking breaks is one of the most important parts of moving home. You and your partner might both be feeling frustrated, but a small break like taking a walk or eating a snack can work wonders. You’ll unfold your arms and come back refreshed and ready to pick up another box.

Moving day might be months away but it’ll sneak up faster than you think. Pack early and you can reduce stress and arguments later. Start with the things you aren’t using. Put your books in boxes. Take pictures down from the walls. If it’s summer, box up those coats and scarves.

Take some weekend trips to your new neighbourhood together. Eat out at a local restaurant, find a new favourite coffee place, explore the parks, immerse yourself in your soon-to-be surroundings. Chat about the things you’re excited about, and pump each other up.

Not only is it a great way to spend some quality time together, but you’ll be getting to know your new area.

Human beings don’t love change, so if either of you feels stressed about moving, don’t beat yourself up about it. 

Melbourne-based psychologist and co-chair of Griefline Australia Sarah Godfrey says that moving can bring up “an incredibly complex range of emotions, from fear and anxiety about the change, to self-doubt about the decision, to grief and loss about the memories and the connections you have in the area”.

Just know that what you’re feeling is normal. And talk to each other about it. You might find that you’re both feeling the same way.